Fear of loneliness
Many families are unhappy, precisely because the reason for creating a new relationship was not love or at least sincere affection, but the usual fear of loneliness. The most interesting thing is that the more a person is afraid to be alone with himself, the faster and more often his relationships with others are destroyed.
Of course, one could say that the theme of loneliness, the desire to merge with society, and at the same time, the struggle to preserve one's own individuality is the favorite conflict considered by philosophy. However, no one will be happier from such reflections. It is better to think about what is the cause of fear. Loneliness is the boredom of the brain. A person is uncomfortable in their comfort zone until they are able to occupy themselves. If he has nothing to do, he gets bored, suffers from loneliness, from the desire for someone to occupy him with something. It is also the laziness of consciousness. Therefore, as soon as the moment comes when a person can be alone with himself, he begins to be afraid of not being busy. Hence the fear of being unnecessary. Such fears are clearly visible even to non-professionals, they are reflected in the behavior of such individuals. A child in the mind of a person who is afraid of loneliness screams to the world: I am special, and therefore you must need me, you must give me time and attention, find something to occupy me, come up with a game for me and play with me. Such people have sharp nervous movements, malicious humor, a rather aggressive manner of communication, and an obsession with certain topics. Another portrait: shyness, self-doubt, ingratiation, ostentatious tears, excessive attraction of attention to oneself by methods of emotional blackmail.
In order not to be afraid of loneliness, one must soberly assess one's position in society, one's utility coefficient for others, and have a developed inner world. Moreover, the first is improved at the expense of the second. The higher your intellectual reserve, the more diverse your interests, the more interesting you are to society, the higher your authority. But at the same time, you yourself need less company and constant communication.
And it is worth remembering one extremely unpleasant fact – no one is obliged to love, respect and appreciate you. All this must be earned by reciprocal actions. Make a deal with the world: you listen to people yourself, you are interested in them, their lives, aspirations and thoughts, and they respond in kind. But, provided that you have something to give them: your interests, thoughts, achievements. USA porn NM PORN the best porn site where you will find everything!
